When moving to Costa Rica Spousal Compromise and Family Commitment is recommended
by guest blogger TicoNuevo
The object of recounting specifics of our family communication is not to bore you with details that don’t relate to your planned move to Costa Rica. My purpose is show that there are possible surprises and unknowns harbored by all parties involved in your move.
The success of your move to Costa Rica will be measured by how well you have openly addressed all of the inner details and emotions involved. It’s incumbent upon you, your partner and other individuals that are part of your decision to come clean and their discuss concerns and desires.
Upon our return from our due diligence trip to Costa Rica, my wife and I agreed to remain silent for a few days about any decisions or inclinations we may have formed independently of the other during or after our working vacation. I recommend a “phase 1 cooling off period” allowing time for the euphoria of your dream vacation to wear off before you discuss what could easily be the biggest decision of a lifetime.
Later that week, my wife and I had a long talk about our impressions of the country, favorite communities and our trip in general. It was also during this conversation that my wife also reminded me we were still too young to retire and we’d need to have some business or avocation to keep us busy if we relocated here. We agreed that we thought we could make a fun and rewarding retirement home in Costa Rica, and we set a goal of one year to be moved to Costa Rica.
I quickly discovered “retirement” for my wife included an idea that I thought had died long ago, operating a small bed and breakfast inn. To be honest, in fact, I had vetoed that Bed & Breakfast of our second career, move to the country and start a vineyard. For a number of reasons, including being totally out of vetoes, I agreed to focus our relocation efforts on finding a residence that could become a B&B.
In reality, a B&B fit both our interests and skills and also offered us the opportunity to close part of the year and travel—an important line item on our retirement to-do list. Use of a methodology is necessary to list and organize the details of your situation to arrive at your on personal solution.
The month progressed at home after making our decision to retire in Costa Rica and we agreed to keep our big decision to ourselves for awhile until we worked through more details. This was our “phase 2 cooling off period.” This gave both of us one more chance to have a change of heart. We felt there was no need to break the news to family and friends until we felt 100% comfortable with our decision. I mean, what if we were to hit an insurmountable obstacle or one of us had a sudden case of cold feet. Keep in mind, there is the potential of terrible embarrassment of announcing a decision to vacate one’s family and friends and then crying wolf and cancelling their plans. It can have very long-term negative consequences to tell everyone in your community that you plan to desert them and pick someplace that provides you with an improvement over your current situation. In our case, it had very little to do with our discontent with our community and a number of truly dear friends. It had a great deal more to do with weather and financial considerations as we advanced into our golden years.
There were plenty of details to work through and who could know what obstacles we uncovered that might cause us to abort our “big adventure.” Ahead lay the attempt to sell our business, sell our house, sell some of our belongings, store the rest, cancel or change all of our accounts, say our goodbyes, get required documents ready for immigration, make travel plans for ourselves and our dog and make arrangements to find a place a to live in Costa Rica. Behind any stone or around any corner was a potentially large barrier or even a deal killer.
The author of this blog, Ticonuevo, is a US expat who moved to Costa Rica and used the services of GoDutch Realty to purchase a property in Costa Rica. In his blogs, Ticonuevo describes his own experiences of taking the step of moving to Costa Rica and getting a new life started.
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